everything happens for a reason: breakups and advice.

This past weekend as I discussed my best friend's break up, I couldn't help but hurt for her.  She is still hurting.  Still hurting since June.  She for the first time ever, really thought he was the one.  The worst kind of break up.  The one where you've fallen hard. And for the first time.  

My heart just hurt for her. So I went back through my memories and lept back into my last big breakup.  The only advice that I could honestly and truly give her was. Time.  It will hurt less. And the worse is when you know they met someone special to them.  And from there it will only get better. But the in between things.  Like focus on yourself.  Stay busy. Seem so lame, I hated that when people told me that during my breakup, but it's so true, the more you focus on yourself, volunteering and throw yourself into your job, the BEST possible things will happen. My volunteering during my breakup led me to meet amazing people, plan and create an amazing Gala, and it was the most rewarding experience, and landed me an interview and amazing new job. In hindsight, I had an epiphany. Things really DO happen for a reason, we just don't know it at the time.  I wish I could go back to the-past-me, wipe her tears and stop her from those heart broken moments, all those times in reassured her "you are going to be sooooooo much happier soon." But that's the thing about the future, you never know what is next.  And the future is full of so many beautiful, wonderful things.  At the same time, the future is never promised, so you have to grab theses moments and make it so beautiful you won't forget it.  I remember when I was younger I would always think to myself, it is never going August 20, 1994. This is the only one I have and I'm gonna make it great. So, take today and make something about it AMAZING. laugh out loud at least one. Play your favorite songs, be with the people you love, call someone you've been meaning to but haven't and don't waste a moment, because the future isn't a promise.