Life Advice. Women Advice. Love Advice.

My email inbox, Facebook, and Twitter feeds have been infiltrated with advice for women in their twenties.  While, they're always an interesting point of view, I sometimes find myself saying, yeah duh...thanks for the heart felt advice, but WE KNOW THAT, K! Side note, text me "K." and I'm going to be forced to assume you want me dead.  Thanks, Lena Dunham for the reference. But yall, Hannah Brencher freaking hits the nail on the head with her blog post "25 things every woman needs to know." with her blog post, here. I would like to cite a few of my favorite points below.

1) Life is a steep, uphill battle but it's fierce and it's beautiful and you'll be sad to see it go if you live it right.

- This is an excellent reminder, that life ain't always rainbows and butterflies, but it's freaking beautiful and if you don't take the time to get off your work laptop, iPhone, or worse- worry your time away, it'll slip right by.  

8) I agree with Bruno Mars and, if I were a good singer, I'd serenade you alongside him in singing how I hope he buys you flowers... and holds your hands... and takes you to parties if you like to dance. You deserve that. Always. Don't think you should have less than that.You are worthy beyond words, gal.

- This is so true.  I've really grown to love ME.  Me, me. The quirky, weird, impatient, curly-headed, wide-hip ME.  As and Carrie Bradshaw once said, "The most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you, you love, well, that's just fabulous."  We all deserve the guy that wants to give us everything.  

13) Nude pumps. They're good for the soul. They are a must-have in any serious closet. Buy a pair one day and I can promise your whole entire style statement will benefit from them.

- This is indeed a fact.  If you don't own a pair, run to target and get a pair for 29.99.  RIGHT NOW.

18) No matter how tech savvy we get, there is a need to say things to a person's face. Please, for the love of lovelier things, have the courage to call someone up and verbalize your thoughts or meet for a coffee. Breaking a heart is hard stuff, stopping a relationship is never fun, but there will never be anything as loud as this statement: You are worth my words. You are worth my presence. You are worth, and will always be worth, more than just letters on a screen and a broken heart jammed in the crooks of an overflowing inbox. Face to face connections are fading faster, please don't let them get away...   

- I've always followed this mantra, I can't say I've gotten the same. But hey, Karma is karma.  

21) Regret is a real thing. It's going to happen. It's going to come clomp-clomp-clomping into your life at some point. Don't hold onto things forever but learn from them and let the past go. The past will be a dictator if you let her.

- Don't focus or dwell too much on the past and that which you regret.  Learn. Change. Grow. Do better.  That's what life is about. 

Well and that's it, I just wanted to add on to the amazing words of Hannah Brencher, and if you happen to be going through a heart break, I would say this post below is a good.  

And smile.  Because literally there is ALWAYS something wondnerful about to happen. 


Wednesday Wisdom.

It's time to focus on me.  And one of my favorite quotes that is SO true. Shirely MacLaine, you are one wise wise, lady my love!

The most profound relationship we will ever have is the one with ourselves.


Just not me...

Somewhere in between moving to Nashville, starting a new career, and immersing myself into new....well, everything, I lost my knack to write.  To connect.  To spend time at a computer and really throw myself into something, anything, that I was writing.  My posts, though valid attempts at being sincere, and genuine just have not been enough.  I've longed for sitting at my computer, connecting with the blogs I read, people who read mine.  Maybe it's because I write copy for a living, and my brain is just "on" too much, maybe it's because I feel as though my time seeps from beneath my fingertips, and the last thing I want to do is to put those fingertips to the keyboard and spend more time in front of a computer, but I miss it.

This last year has been interesting.  I must say moving to a new city has its ups and downs.  Nashville has been a fairly (and by fairly, I mean almost completely) simple transition.  Close enough, but not too far away.  I miss my close friends and of course my family, but am glad I'm gone for a little while.  One year later, a few heart breaks, a lot of head aches, some successes, and a few failures, some tears, lots of laughter later, I finally feel I have accepted Nashville as home.  I have a little family here.  I can tell my dentist whole-heartedly I have a crew to take care of me when I have to get those sucker wisdom teeth taken out at the end of this year.  But somehow, it hasn't been enough.  I've settled for the guys, who are good, but not good enough, not treating me enough.  I've let go of the guy who could have been the one, maybe because I wasn't ready, or scared.  I've learned a lot about marketing, I've grown in my career, I've changed.  I've challenged, and been challenged by colleagues.  But somehow, for me it isn't enough.  Are we always chasing? I know they say it's a journey, not a destination, but something within me feels full, but not whole.  I want a bigger city.  I want to feel the excitement of living in a loft.  Nashville, is unique, and exciting, even on a Monday night, but somehow it isn't enough.  Before even considering a move, I ask you all.....is it ever really enough? Insert cheesy Britney song circa 2000.  If there's nothing missing in my life.....then why do these tears come at night? Okay, they are not tears, but something is not completely satisfied here.  Have you all felt this way?